@Garwoofoo great post. I used ‘productive’ as well and knew it’d be taken as meaning being at work. I meant it more as being creative, producing art stuff. (which for others is a ‘hobby’ but for me is stuff i’m deeply proud of and really value) Games are play as being creative is, sometimes games play can replace creative play. It’s more about energy than time for me. If you have a chunk of days to get into something you can finish late then get up fresh the next day, as opposed to spending all day doing repetitive tedious tasks then coming home and trying to get into a different type of head space and having the energy for it. It’s the same for others though, those who watch the most tv are the ones who work longer hours. Less hours working doesn’t mean more time to watch tv, it means more energy to avoid the slumping on to the sofa knackered.
My oldest brother used to play games as much as me in the early 90s. But he reached a point where watching a film or playing games weren’t a social thing so couldn’t be justified as time well spent. Playing multiplayer games aren’t what he and his mates do.
So if you suggest a tv show or film you know he will like he’ll just react like no no can’t. must. spend. time either fixing something or cultivating relationships. No kids, no pets, 4 days off a week. So if a tv show or film is being talked about by everyone he’ll watch it. He’s still really socially driven like that as teenagers are.
Him spending an afternoon watching something would be weird. Even that word, weird. He can react to art in that knee jerk repulsed way. To me i just want art/entertainment to provoke me, intrigue, interest me. So ‘weird’ would mean interesting, which would mean not boring.
Last night he mentioned playing a game on his phone, again something he’s never done. Like, he played games as much as me, i remember us taking it in turns on the Wipeout 2097 demo, on Micro Machines 2, time trial basement track, i remember me playing Blast Corps on the level with the moving train and you’ve got to skid bash up the track, and him entering the room and saying excitedly; what’s this? I’ll give it a go! Then 25 minutes later losing his mind with frustration. Do you want me to have a go? ‘No!’ Eventually he threw my controller at the radiator and stormed out. It’s a hard level! Ultra competitive, if i won a game against him back then he’d yell ‘well i don’t have time to spend all day practising like you do!’
He has stopped playing any games since 1997. He’d come back from rollerblading with his mates and i’d put Goldeneye on but that was it, that was...a couple of times. And Soul Calibur 2 a bit. Actually! He did play Roller Coaster Tycoon in 2000. Literally told his mate; don’t bother me i’m playing this.
I remember wanting to play retro games in multiplayer but didn’t get chance at christmas (as we did the year before) so i said; just one day lets play games. He picked a day but he came in and said; right got half an hour i’m going to the gym with Tom soon.
Last night i said; but you never have time for fun. He and his girlfriend didn’t find it funny really. Him playing a game on his phone...it’s probably a popular game among his circle of friends.