There is a difference between enjoying the gear and enjoying the 'media', fundamentally. They're separate interests and pleasures which overlap in some ways. The best moments of appreciating each are often when they shine together.
In the past, I've built headphone amps and modded some pretty high-end gear with bits of foam and all that, rolling hard-won military grade 1950s tubes and cramming capacitors the size of Coke cans into a shoebox sized amp. That was so much fun in itself, listening to the differences and seeing how far the gear would scale. That was a really fun time of my life and the reality is that I've never heard music sound as incredible as during those days. I would be laughing and crying with the emotion of it all, it sounded fucking spectacular, there was nothing cold or dry about it, it was balls out (sometimes literally), heart-pumping, ecstatic. I would come home, pull down the shutter on the skylight, get my headphones on and dance around in my pants with only the gentle glow of the tubes for company, until my wife would barge in fuming that she'd been home for ten minutes calling me to help with the shopping or whatever.
At times, however, I did notice that I was listening to the gear as much or more than the music, but there's nothing inherently wrong with that. It didn't kill my love of music in the slightest, it was just a different level of appreciation. In the same way, you go and see, I dunno, Raphael's Ascension, and on one level you're completely drawn into the individual emotions of the figures and you feel their sorrow or joy or wonder, but on another level you're like how the hell did he produce something on this scale or how did he get that red so vibrant that it's bursting out of the canvas? It's a separate, overlapping appreciation. Ultimately, I sold my audio gear because I got an ear infection which left me with mild tinnitus (which thankfully diminished over time) and it was nice to find after six months or so that I enjoyed the music itself just as much through my crappy car stereo as I did through my daft amp setup. That said, I've never again had anywhere near the same technical appreciation or enjoyment from anything I've heard since. That's simply a variety of pleasure that's now not in my life.
It's the same with games. I can feel in my muscle memory the sensation of seeing my mate's SF4 Ryu throwing a fireball and point blanking him with an FADC > full Ultra with my Ken and that's a fantastic feeling, but it's a separate one to enjoying all the graphics on Ultra on his 60" telly and the booming OST on his sound system versus the dogshit tier everything I was used to on my little laptop.
I suppose all I'm trying to say is that it's OK to enjoy both the gameplay and the gear. You get accustomed to the latter, as you can easily get bored with the former, and it's a potential rabbit hole for a certain type of personality (and I've probably got a bit of that myself) but it's not as simple as 'it's all the same'.